{"id":20150,"date":"2024-11-28T08:21:06","date_gmt":"2024-11-28T08:21:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/?p=20150"},"modified":"2026-02-21T00:29:04","modified_gmt":"2026-02-21T00:29:04","slug":"gratitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/2024\/11\/28\/gratitude\/","title":{"rendered":"Gratitude"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-wb-testimonials__testimonials-10 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-rounded-lg nfd-overflow-hidden wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-6cdc13f3 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\" style=\"padding-top:0;padding-right:0;padding-bottom:0;padding-left:0\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-stretch is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"padding-top:0;padding-right:0;padding-bottom:0;padding-left:0\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-stretch is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-b16ad781 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\" style=\"min-height:100%\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"526\" height=\"813\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-24.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-20151\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-24.png 526w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-24-194x300.png 194w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 526px) 100vw, 526px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-stretch is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<div class=\"nfd-text-lg nfd-p-card-lg is-style-nfd-theme-dark wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-76a81b31 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\" style=\"min-height:100%;font-style:normal;font-weight:400;line-height:1.3\">\n<div class=\"nfd-text-balance wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-8cf370e7 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"nfd-text-md has-text-color\" style=\"color:#fab906;letter-spacing:2px\">Epictetus, Discourses, 1.6.1\u20132<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">\u201cIt is easy to praise providence for anything that may happen if you have two qualities: a complete view of what has actually happened in each instance and a sense of gratitude. Without gratitude what is the point of seeing, and without seeing what is the object of gratitude?\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:0px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer wp-container-content-9760934e\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">Thanksgiving<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">It was last year, I was asked why not Thanksgiving &#8211; well to honest Thanksgiving &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.potawatomi.org\/blog\/2020\/11\/25\/the-true-dark-history-of-thanksgiving\/\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.potawatomi.org\/blog\/2020\/11\/25\/the-true-dark-history-of-thanksgiving\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">The true, dark history of Thanksgiving<\/a>.  However, I like to concentrate on being grateful.  Part of that expression of being grateful comes through action.  I was speaking to my wife a bit earlier tonight and I made mention of how we often find ourselves taking folks in.  Not because of what we necessarily have to offer, rather, because of what we have been through and know of the grace we needed in making it to where we are.  <a href=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/2024\/10\/25\/zentriathlete-blog\/fb-follow-up-why-not-thanksgiving\/\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/2024\/10\/25\/zentriathlete-blog\/fb-follow-up-why-not-thanksgiving\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">My previous thoughts on Why Not Thanksgiving!<\/a> It is in that vein that we offer hands in action to help those in scenarios that require support.  It doesn&#8217;t mean we or they are better off, rather life is a bit muddy and we choose to sit with them for a season in the mud.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/RH-perspective.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-20152\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/RH-perspective.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/RH-perspective-550x275.jpg 550w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/RH-perspective-820x410.jpg 820w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/RH-perspective-300x150.jpg 300w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/RH-perspective-768x384.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">It&#8217;s so interesting how many things are claimed as truths, but really they are mere stories we have infatuated our inner selves around various events.  It is my observation the further away we are from the event, the less concrete the realities of the event become, also.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-p-lg nfd-theme-light nfd-bg-surface nfd-wb-media-embeds__embed-11 is-style-nfd-theme-light wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-gap-lg wp-block-group nfd-wb-animate nfd-wb-fade-in-top-short is-vertical is-content-justification-center is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-4b2eccd6 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h3 class=\"nfd-text-huge nfd-text-contrast nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading has-text-align-center has-large-font-size\">&#8220;Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not become a monster&#8230; for when you gaze long into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you&#8221;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\"><strong>&#8211;Friedrich Nietzsche &#8212;<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\" style=\"margin-top:var(--wp--preset--spacing--70)\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-group-is-layout-6ef0a6e4 wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-683x1024.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-20154\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-683x1024.png 683w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-550x825.png 550w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-820x1230.png 820w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-1024x1536.png 1024w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26.png 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em><strong>Krampus &#8211; from the Christmas markets of Lake Carezza, Italy<\/strong><\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Be Kind, Not a Douchebag!<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-wb-hero__hero-14 wp-block-group alignfull\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-container wp-block-cover alignfull is-light is-layout-constrained wp-block-cover-is-layout-constrained\" style=\"min-height:100vh;aspect-ratio:unset;\"><span aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-cover__background has-background-dim-30 has-background-dim\" style=\"background-color:#b6b0ad\"><\/span><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1080\" height=\"840\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-block-cover__image-background wp-image-20155\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-27.png\" style=\"object-position:31% 59%\" data-object-fit=\"cover\" data-object-position=\"31% 59%\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-27.png 1080w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-27-550x428.png 550w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-27-820x638.png 820w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-27-300x233.png 300w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-27-1024x796.png 1024w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-27-768x597.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><div class=\"wp-block-cover__inner-container\"><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">Dave Matthews Band Lyrics<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">Seek Up!  The lyrics of this song have been haunting my mind for the last little bit and the first time I heard the set years ago, it blew me away.  From the haunting sounds of &#8220;The Minarets&#8221; and the version of &#8220;Warehouse&#8221; and Tripping Billies &#8211; it&#8217;s just an excellent Album.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<iframe style=\"border-radius:12px\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/album\/3WdvcOJfJn5tbGaatpUy7s?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"352\" frameBorder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" loading=\"lazy\"><\/iframe>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"\">Another favorite of mine is the song Granny!  I never knew this but apparently they only play this one live so recordings are not common, and this one is printed in this album.  The storytelling helps me interpret and absorb messages.  Maybe that is why I find the lyrics to Seek Up so meaningful:<br><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-p-md nfd-theme-white nfd-bg-surface nfd-wb-features__features-27 is-style-nfd-theme-white wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-gap-3xl nfd-text-md nfd-text-faded wp-block-columns are-vertically-aligned-top is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-9d6595d7 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"md:nfd-order-2 wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-top is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:50%\">\n<div class=\"nfd-gap-xl wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-8cf370e7 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading nfd-text-huge nfd-text-contrast\">Seek Up<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<p class=\"\">Sometimes I feel like I&#8217;m falling<br>Fall back again, fall back again<br>Fall back again, fall back again<br>Oh, life it seems a struggle between<br>What we see what we do<br>I&#8217;m not going to change my ways<br>Just to please you or appease you<br>Look at this crowd, six billion proud<br>Willing to punch it out<br>Right, wrong, weak, strong<br>Ashes to ashes all fall down<br>Look around about this round<br>About this merry-go-round and around<br>If at all God&#8217;s gaze upon us falls<br>It&#8217;s with a mischievous grin, look at him<br>Forget about the reasons and<br>The treasons we are seeking<br>Forget about the notion that<br>Our emotions can be kept at bay<br>Forget about being guilty<br>We are innocent instead<br>For soon we will all find our lives swept away<br>Look at me in my fancy car<br>And my bank account<br>Oh, how I wish I could take it all down<br>Into my grave, I&#8217;d save<br>Take a look again, take a look again,<br>Take a look again<br>Everyday things change<br>Stay the same<br>Forget about the reasons and<br>The treasons we are seeking<br>Forget about the notion that your emotions can be<br>Wept away, kept at bay<br>Forget about being guilty, I am innocent instead<br>For soon we will all find our lives swept away<br>You seek up an emotion<br>And our cup is overflowing<br>You seek up an emotion<br>Sometimes your well is dry<br>You seek up a big monster<br>For him to fight your wars for you<br>But when he finds his way to you<br>The devil&#8217;s not going<br>Say, oh say<br>Late at night with TV&#8217;s hungry child<br>His belly swells<br>Oh, for a price of a coke or a smoke<br>I could keep alive those hungy eyes<br>Take a look again, take a look again<br>Take a look again<br>Every day things change<br>But basically you and me stay the same<br>Forget about the reasons and<br>The treasons we are seeking<br>Forget about the notion that<br>Our emotions can be kept at bay<br>Intentions are not wicked<br>Don&#8217;t be tricked into thinking so<br>Soon we will all find our lives swept away<br>You seek up an emotion<br>And our cup is overflowing<br>You seek up an emotion<br>Sometimes your well is dry<br>You seek up a big monster<br>For him to fight your wars for you<br>But when he finds his way to you<br>The devil&#8217;s not going<br>Fall back again, fall back again<br>Fall back again<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"md:nfd-order-2 wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-top is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:50%\">\n<div class=\"nfd-gap-xl wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-8cf370e7 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<div style=\"height:0px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"md:nfd-hidden wp-block-spacer wp-container-content-541a6b20\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-huge nfd-text-current wp-block-heading\">Granny<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<p class=\"\">Hello how are you doin&#8217; today?<br>I hope I find you feeling healthy<br>I&#8217;m so glad our paths crossed this time today <br>On our way into the night<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">I say its love, its hidin&#8217; deep, deep down inside us all<br>So maybe, we should lift it up above from deep inside<br>But love, it&#8217;s not so tough and you come admit it too<br>Baby, your heart into a thousand pieces dashed<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Stop, only the old and wise, with clouded eyes<br>You can&#8217;t see what I can, &#8217;cause I<br>Blindly throw my faith to the face<br>Of the next pretty girl to come my way<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Here we are all of us stand around<br>We&#8217;re leaning heavy on each other<br>Always wondering what is it lies behind<br>The worried eyes of one another<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">I believe it&#8217;s love, it&#8217;s hidin&#8217; there, in the shadows in the darkness<br>Maybe we&#8217;ll shed a little light and it will shine<br>Oh love, when I approach, my tears they fall like rain<br>&#8216;Cause you know<br>Baby, my heart&#8217;s into a thousand pieces dashed<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Stop, only the old and wise, with clouded eyes<br>You can&#8217;t see what I can, &#8217;cause I<br>Blindly throw my faith to the face<br>Of the next good thing to come my way<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">I say it&#8217;s love, so share it out, share it fair, but share it liberal<br>Maybe our thing&#8217;s a better world than it could be love<br>But love, when I approach, the tears they fall like rain<br>You tell me<br>Baby, your heart&#8217;s into a thousand pieces dashed<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Stop, only the old and wise, with clouded eyes<br>You can&#8217;t see what I can, I<br>Blindly throw my faith to the face<br>Of the next good thing to come my way<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"\">So the lyrics from Seek Up are quite important.  It&#8217;s weird to think how relevant these lyrics are vis-a-vis the theatres of the world stage.  It&#8217;s a dance of one playing through perception and ego and ultimately how to navigate a journey of reasonable self scrutiny &#8211; but few are listening.  The more I &#8220;seek up&#8221; &#8211; and I don&#8217;t know how to define up &#8211; other than beyond me.  I find myself in a battle of self awareness.  Yesterday i was frustrated. While often misunderstood an perceived as synonymous,\u00a0being a &#8220;Stoic&#8221; does not mean completely suppressing emotions;\u00a0instead, as a stoic it means that I emphasize managing and understanding my emotions rather than simply pushing them down.  Further, it encourages me to acknowledge my feelings while not letting them control my actions or judgment.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>\u201cObjective judgment, now, at this very moment. Unselfish action, now, at this very moment.\u00a0<strong>Willing acceptance\u2014 now, at this very moment\u2014 of all external events<\/strong>. That&#8217;s all you need.\u201d<\/p><cite><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Marcus_Aurelius\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Marcus_Aurelius\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Marcus Aurelius<\/a><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Current wanderings of my headspace <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-wb-testimonials__testimonials-10 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-rounded-lg nfd-overflow-hidden wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-6cdc13f3 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\" style=\"padding-top:0;padding-right:0;padding-bottom:0;padding-left:0\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-stretch is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"padding-top:0;padding-right:0;padding-bottom:0;padding-left:0\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-stretch is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-b16ad781 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\" style=\"min-height:100%\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"747\" height=\"1024\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-28.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-20157\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-28.png 747w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-28-550x754.png 550w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-28-219x300.png 219w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 747px) 100vw, 747px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Image Source:  <a href=\"https:\/\/photos.com\/featured\/ernest-hemingway-kurt-hutton.html\">https:\/\/photos.com\/featured\/ernest-hemingway-kurt-hutton.html<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-stretch is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<div class=\"nfd-text-lg nfd-p-card-lg is-style-nfd-theme-dark wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-76a81b31 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\" style=\"min-height:100%;font-style:normal;font-weight:400;line-height:1.3\">\n<div class=\"nfd-text-balance wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-8cf370e7 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"nfd-text-md has-text-color\" style=\"color:#fab906;letter-spacing:2px\">Interesting thoughts:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">&#8220;In our darkest moments, we don\u2019t need solutions or advice. What we yearn for is simply human connection\u2014a quiet presence, a gentle touch. These small gestures are the anchors that hold us steady when life feels like too much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Your silent support is the most precious gift you can give. It\u2019s a love that helps me remember who I am, even when I forget.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:0px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer wp-container-content-9760934e\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-text-md nfd-gap-0 wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-8cf370e7 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"\">Ernest Hemingway<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">This is often called \u2018sitting in the mud\u2019.  Many want to move to advice or instruction without consent or context. While sitting in the mud, the observation required to gather information is most often acquired &#8211; something many have already done but are just \u2018stuck\u2019. In the adrenaline <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sallycatpda.co.uk\/2021\/09\/the-f-family-of-7-adrenaline-responses.html\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"http:\/\/www.sallycatpda.co.uk\/2021\/09\/the-f-family-of-7-adrenaline-responses.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">&#8220;F&#8221; responses<\/a> this is known as freeze or paralysis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>\u201cLiving the way you want is not selfish. Selfishness is expecting others to live the way you want.\u201d<\/p><cite>\u2014 Oscar Wilde &#8212;<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">I also listened back to this podcast by Ryan Holiday via his Daily Dad podcast.  The reason I went back to listen was thinking about how folks that interact with Autism and Pathological Demand Avoidance.  You can find this sourced via Ryan Holiday at: <a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/watch-what-happens\/\">https:\/\/dailydad.com\/watch-what-happens\/<\/a> .  It is such a worthwhile conversational podcast on simple parenting topics.  So many folks outside of Neurodivergence look in from their personal &#8220;Carousels of Comfort&#8221; without context or reading a parent&#8217;s investment in their offspring and begin lending advice, instruction or otherwise without Observation and Information &#8211; just perception they bring that may but by unfortunate observation &#8211; just doesn&#8217;t align with the value or efforts of the primary caregivers.  <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Dr. Becky Kennedy On Stoic Parenting Advice, Emotional Regulation, And Raising Great Kids\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/vVnAhn2S3Qk?feature=oembed\" style=\"border: none\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">So be kind!  The truth and the world is cruel enough by itself.  Unfortunately &#8211; happiness has a quid pro quo relationship &#8211; It (happiness) always wants more. This has bothered me. Joy on the other hand, it just is. So when I intersect with joy, I am learning to just sit in it. Example &#8211; when we have gone to Disney over the last 2 years &#8211; the elements and experiences before and after have been happy but often difficult &#8211; for our kids and for us trying to understand after years of frugality of &#8211; &#8220;did we do the right thing&#8221;? Looking back at videos from the trips, It is undeniable to witness the joy each of my kids and my spouse and my parents encountered each day in different ways. So, let there be joy, let it enhance the weightiest elements of each journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Another example, my fellow Ironman and ultra friends will understand &#8211; the reason we do long course endurance sports isn\u2019t because of love or some untenable difficulty.  Rather, it\u2019s those moments of realization as we near that line of the finish at the event where we express our fitness &#8211; often times for no one other person than one&#8217;s self &#8211; it isn\u2019t something selfish, nay it\u2019s just something we know we have to do to empower ourselves the permission to bring another joy, in my case <a href=\"http:\/\/www.happyinthehills.com\/blog\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"http:\/\/www.happyinthehills.com\/blog\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Liz Livingston<\/a> and my kiddos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">How grateful I am to recognize joy because I have encountered plenty absences of joy.  May we all find more joy &#8211; and be kind. The douchebaggery is so pass\u00e9 and it looks good on no one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane.\u2019 <\/p><cite>\u2013 Marcus Aurelius<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"736\" height=\"736\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-29.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-20159\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-29.png 736w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-29-550x550.png 550w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-29-100x100.png 100w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-29-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-29-150x150.png 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 736px) 100vw, 736px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">One last podcast plug<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Don&#8217;t forget what got me into my blog, triathlon.  And little is better than listening to two friends circling the topic of gratitude and triathlon and its intersections with life!  Coach Robbie and Mike were on point during episode 817!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<iframe style=\"border-radius:12px\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/1t2fsBprzFwYWDGvUrn8Xd?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"352\" frameBorder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" loading=\"lazy\"><\/iframe>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Epictetus, Discourses, 1.6.1\u20132 \u201cIt is easy to praise providence for anything that may happen if you have two qualities: a complete view of what has actually happened in each instance and a sense of gratitude. 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