{"id":20409,"date":"2024-12-24T19:37:42","date_gmt":"2024-12-24T19:37:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/?p=20409"},"modified":"2026-02-21T00:29:04","modified_gmt":"2026-02-21T00:29:04","slug":"it-just-hit-right-time-right-topic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/2024\/12\/24\/it-just-hit-right-time-right-topic\/","title":{"rendered":"It just hit!  Right time, Right topic!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-pt-lg nfd-theme-darker nfd-bg-surface nfd-wb-media-embeds__embed-5 is-style-nfd-theme-darker wp-block-group has-background nfd-bg-effect-lines-2\" style=\"background:linear-gradient(0deg,rgb(255,255,255) 21%,rgb(33,59,59) 21%,rgb(0,0,0) 100%)\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-e1bd801a wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\" style=\"margin-bottom:var(--wp--preset--spacing--30)\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-center is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:50%\">\n<h1 class=\"nfd-text-contrast nfd-text-giga nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading has-color-7-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-c0d4279e6b9a6791bcdd0f2520cb0e2b\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:400\">Daily STOIC PODCAST<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"nfd-text-faded nfd-text-lg has-color-7-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-455ada9effd5e03aa4dc5d0e7b44cf43\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:300\">When we tie our identity to what we do rather than who we truly are, losing that sense of self can be devastating. Benj Gershman, bassist for the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/ofarevolution\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">rock band O.A.R<\/a>., experienced this firsthand\u2014and it led him to Stoicism.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-layout-flex wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"nfd-btn-wide wp-block-button\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/4EbZ3uaxsVbfmYBTXCpFmF\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\" noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Link to podcast<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\" style=\"margin-top:var(--wp--preset--spacing--70)\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-overflow-hidden -nfd-mx-2 nfd-rounded-xl nfd-backdrop-blur-md nfd-theme-dark nfd-bg-surface is-style-nfd-theme-dark wp-block-group has-background\" style=\"background-color:#9E9E9E1A;padding-top:8px;padding-right:8px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:8px\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-group-is-layout-e5b0c750 wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<figure class=\"wp-embed-aspect-21-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-spotify wp-block-embed-spotify\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Spotify Embed: O.A.R.&amp;apos;s Benj Gershman on Turning Obstacles Into Opportunities\" style=\"border-radius: 12px\" width=\"100%\" height=\"152\" style=\"border: none\" allowfullscreen allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/4EbZ3uaxsVbfmYBTXCpFmF?utm_source=oembed\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">PodCast Notes<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">In this conversation, Benj opens up to Ryan about the mental and physical toll of life on the road, lessons learned from O.A.R.&#8217;s 30 years together, and how\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/store.dailystoic.com\/pages\/obstacle-anniversary\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The Obstacle is the Way<\/a>\u00a0transformed his mindset during the darkest chapter of his life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">You can follow Benj on&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/benjgershman\/?hl=en\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Instagram @BenjGershman&nbsp;<\/a>and&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/ofarevolution\/?hl=en\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">OAR @OfARevolution<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Check out Benj\u2019s podcast all about mental health support called&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/whatcouldbebadofficial\/?hl=en\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">What Could Be Bad<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">Podcast drove me to these thoughts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">Well, this podcast conversation &#8211; I could have shared many things that this conversation holds. To know or glimpse me, listen in. If you are a TLDR type, that&#8217;s not a me problem. I have come to learn through observation and informative interactions, that I can only supply information &#8211; I can&#8217;t want another person into that area otherwise I would be going against this quote by Oscar Wilde:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"\">\u201cLiving the way you want is not selfish. Selfishness is expecting others to live the way you want.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Ryan Holiday thank you so much for this podcast episode. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">Blogpost and journaling thoughts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">First of all, this listen happened on the eve of Solstice.  And here are some thoughts for that first.  You can use these affirmations in meditation, journaling, or as part of a solstice ritual to set intentions for the coming year or to be mindful and intentional however you level set and reflect and move forward from this present moment &#8211; now!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\">Reflection and Release\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\">I release what no longer serves me and make space for growth.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">I honor the lessons of the past year and carry them with gratitude:<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">I let go of fear and embrace the peace of this still moment.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">Welcoming the Light\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\">I welcome the returning light and its guidance for the year ahead<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">As the days grow longer, so does my hope and inspiration<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">I am open to new beginnings and the opportunities they bring<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">Inner Strength and Renewal\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\">I nurture the light within me, even in the darkest times.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">I am resilient, grounded, and ready to grow<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">Like the Earth, I am in harmony with cycles of rest and renewal.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">Connection with Nature\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\">I align myself with the rhythm of nature and trust its wisdom.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">I honor the quiet beauty of winter and find stillness within.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">I am deeply connected to the Earth and its changing seasons.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-wb-testimonials__testimonials-10 wp-block-group alignwide\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-rounded-lg nfd-overflow-hidden wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-6cdc13f3 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\" style=\"padding-top:0;padding-right:0;padding-bottom:0;padding-left:0\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-stretch is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"padding-top:0;padding-right:0;padding-bottom:0;padding-left:0\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-stretch is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-b16ad781 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\" style=\"min-height:100%\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"554\" height=\"554\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-14.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-20412\" style=\"object-fit:cover;width:555px;height:555px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-14.png 554w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-14-550x550.png 550w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-14-100x100.png 100w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-14-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-14-150x150.png 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 554px) 100vw, 554px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-vertically-aligned-stretch is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<div class=\"nfd-text-lg nfd-p-card-lg is-style-nfd-theme-dark wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-76a81b31 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\" style=\"min-height:100%;font-style:normal;font-weight:400;line-height:1.3\">\n<div class=\"nfd-text-balance wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-8cf370e7 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"\">And once the storm is over, you won\u2019t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won\u2019t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won\u2019t be the same person who walked in. That\u2019s what this storm\u2019s all about. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-text-md nfd-gap-0 wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-8cf370e7 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"\">Haruki Murakami<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-5 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">Some thoughts to drive this post<\/h2>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose nfd-gap-lg wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-9d6595d7 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Norwegian Idiom<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Up and not crying\u201d is a Norwegian idiom that means a day is great, even if it&#8217;s not perfect. The phrase is oppe og ikke gr\u00e5ter in Norwegian, and it&#8217;s used as a response to the morning greeting, \u201chow are you?\u201d. The meaning of the phrase is that things aren&#8217;t great, but not terrible either, and you&#8217;re getting on with life.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Topher KEarby thought<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Happiness is not a destination or a goal to be checked off. It is learning to be present during the thousand everyday moments that often pass us by. A good life is happening all around us if we learn to stop and pay attention. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">A fun story about Neurodiversity Adaptations<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">Often while driving we have tried the &#8220;ole find the alphabet letter&#8221; A &#8211; Z on signs and\/or cars game. It was absolute madness and dysregulation hell. So on a whim, I screamed in my most parenting loving voice &#8211; who can find the letter F?  Completely unaware of what rabbit hole i just jumped into!  I wonder where my mind was? Yup, the most tactile word &#8211; no joke &#8211; 1 pdaer, 1 autistic and 1 adhd-er all seeking for that letter, then the letter U,  then the next was C!  I pivoted there.  One letter at a time, randomized, all the way thru the alphabet. A half hour gone on the way to parks and grandmas during thanksgiving witching hours. I share this because it was breaking things down. It\u2019s often just too big, so the chunk the kiddos need is a small walk. Seeking for berries, or grasses, or rocks, or bugs, finding foolish little things for 2 -3 minutes at a time with plenty of pivots. It does take a bit of novelty and effort to tear away the scaffolding &#8211; instead of the persistent chasing of the epic.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-7 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-text-md wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"\">Ernest Hemingway once said: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"\">In our darkest moments, we don\u2019t need solutions or advice. What we yearn for is simply human connection\u2014a quiet presence, a gentle touch. These small gestures are the anchors that hold us steady when life feels like too much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Your silent support is the most precious gift you can give. It\u2019s a love that helps me remember who I am, even when I forget.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">This is often called \u2018sitting in the mud\u2019.  Many want to move to advice or instruction without consent or context. While sitting in the mud, the observation required to gather information is most often acquired &#8211; something many have already done but are just \u2018stuck\u2019. In the adrenaline F-responses this is known as freeze, or paralysis.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"773\" height=\"769\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-15.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-20427\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-15.png 773w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-15-550x547.png 550w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-15-100x100.png 100w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-15-300x298.png 300w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-15-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-15-768x764.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 773px) 100vw, 773px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-text-md wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\"><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">Another Adventure in NeuroDiversity<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">Recently, I had the opportunity to accompany my 1st grader on a class field trip. First, the principle teach is amazing and also over tasked, and it\u2019s a brilliant privilege to see her work wonders with the kiddos. Some observations, when you go to more than one field trip, many of the kiddos focus on on you. The teachers are overwhelmed with our kiddos and still find ways to be amazing. Walking around the city and using the city busses IS NOT for everyone, and many of these kiddos don\u2019t need heavy handed authoritarianism as a method of correction, encouragement, coping skills cultivation or other.  They just need reassurance and to be heard &#8211; being a 6 year old among 23 other peers can be disheartening. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">Our local firefighters are quite awesome! People don\u2019t know what to say when I prefer being with these kiddos as opposed to managing other adults in my professional engagements &#8211; some of these little minds are so brilliant. Although I didn\u2019t get to spend all my time with my daughter, observing her little interests and many of the things she just can\u2019t do at home, today I observed why and just how engaged in doing many correct things at school. Being careful with my words &#8211; but there were 23 little kiddos. Of those I interacted with about 18. Of those 18 about a dozen are for sure some form of disrupted neuro type with plenty of dysregulation.  It was a fun day with lots of interactions and walking and busses and adventures!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-p-lg nfd-theme-dark nfd-bg-surface nfd-wb-testimonials__testimonials-8 is-style-nfd-theme-dark wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-gap-lg wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-center is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-73a99bce wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"nfd-text-lg nfd-text-balance wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-center is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-4b2eccd6 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">\u201cUp and not crying\u201d is a Norwegian idiom that means a day is great, even if it&#8217;s not perfect. The phrase is oppe og ikke gr\u00e5ter in Norwegian, and it&#8217;s used as a response to the morning greeting, \u201chow are you?\u201d. The meaning of the phrase is that things aren&#8217;t great, but not terrible either, and you&#8217;re getting on with life.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-gap-sm nfd-text-base wp-block-group is-nowrap is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-ad2f72ca wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<figure class=\"is-style-rounded is-resized wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-683x1024.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-20154\" style=\"aspect-ratio:1;object-fit:cover;width:100px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-683x1024.png 683w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-550x825.png 550w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-820x1230.png 820w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-768x1152.png 768w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26-1024x1536.png 1024w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/image-26.png 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><strong>Old Way Thoughts &amp; Traditions<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<h2 class=\"nfd-text-xl nfd-text-balance wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:600\">Some lessons learned from the years<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">A few years back I came across a concept known as narcissistic injury while reading <a href=\"https:\/\/store.dailystoic.com\/products\/ego-is-the-enemy-signed-edition\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Ego is the Enemy<\/a> by <a href=\"https:\/\/ryanholiday.net\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Ryan Holiday<\/a>. One of the most difficult notions in a journey of reasonable self scrutiny is properly setting expectations. A phrase I encountered in approx 2014 &#8211;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"\">Unrealistic expectations are just future resentments!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Self discipline is very iterative. It\u2019s not a single event.  It&#8217;s not just one data point.  It&#8217;s not the good-ole days, even though it may have been a most excellent event or a combined set of memories.  It changes and recalibrates and moves a lot. It demands and requires ongoing and persistent interactions and refinements through disciplined and mistakes of experience. It starts from the inside (self) and involves self reflection and removing masks and so much more. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"PDA masking\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-DYD7yFOknI?feature=oembed\" style=\"border: none\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"\">It is my observation that misguided and malformed expectations often shape narcissism and other difficult dispositions &#8211; sure environment and shaping have a role too. Further, lack of self realization and personal accountability only hurts oneself and claiming injury only substantiates the lack of willful self discipline and effort required to grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">In&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Psychology\">psychology<\/a>,&nbsp;<strong>narcissistic injury<\/strong>, also known as&nbsp;<strong>narcissistic wound<\/strong>&nbsp;or&nbsp;<strong>wounded ego<\/strong>, is emotional&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Psychological_trauma\">trauma<\/a>&nbsp;that overwhelms an individual&#8217;s&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Defense_mechanism\">defense mechanisms<\/a>&nbsp;and devastates their&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Pride\">pride<\/a>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Self-worth\">self-worth<\/a>. In some cases, the&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Shame\">shame<\/a>&nbsp;or disgrace is so significant that the individual can never again truly feel good about who they are. This is sometimes referred to as a &#8220;narcissistic scar&#8221;.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\"><strong><em>Source &#8211;<\/em><\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Narcissistic_injury\">https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Narcissistic_injury<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>\u201cIt\u2019s when the earth shakes<br>And foundations crumble<br>That our light is called<br>To rise up.<br>It\u2019s when everything falls away<br>And shakes us to the core<br>And awakens all<br>Of our hidden ghosts<br>That we dig deeper to find<br>Once inaccessible strength.<br>It\u2019s in times when division is fierce<br>That we must reach for each other<br>And hold each other much<br>Much tighter.<br>Do not fall away now.<br>This is the time to rise.<br>Your light is being summoned.<br>Your integrity is being tested<br>That it may stand more tall.<br>Rise, and find the strength in your heart.<br>Rise, and find the strength in each other<br>Burn through your devastation,<br>Make it your fuel.<br>Bring forth your light.<br>Now is not the time<br>To be afraid of the dark.\u201d<\/p><cite><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/chani.harkin\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">C Harkin<\/a><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"nfd-container nfd-text-md nfd-wb-text__text-1 wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"nfd-max-w-prose wp-block-group is-vertical is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-c0ca7d81 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\n<p class=\"\">Alright, it is Christmas eve day and I think that is good for this thrown together set of jumbled thoughts for today.  Maybe more later.  I have to figure out how to migrate this and the other blogs to the new hosting plan and more over the next few days, too!  Cheers!<br><br><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image-16-655x1024.png\" alt=\"\"><br>&#8220;The Raven&#8217;s Yule&#8221;<br><br>Upon a night of frosted gray,<br>A shadow came to bar my way.<br>A raven black, with eyes that bore<br>The weight of grief, of &#8220;Nevermore.&#8221;<br><br>&#8220;Why dost thou come?&#8221; I dared to say,<br>&#8220;To steal the light of Christmas Day?&#8221;<br>It croaked but once, a word of lore,<br>Its chilling whisper: &#8220;Nevermore.&#8221;<br><br>The fire waned, the candles died,<br>As silence pressed, and hope denied.<br>Yet still I find, through winter\u2019s roar,<br>A haunting truth in &#8220;Nevermore.&#8221;<\/p><cite>&#8220;The Raven&#8217;s Yule&#8221;<br><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cUp and not crying\u201d is a Norwegian idiom that means a day is great, even if it&#8217;s not perfect. The phrase is oppe og ikke gr\u00e5ter in Norwegian, and it&#8217;s used as a response to the morning greeting, \u201chow are you?\u201d. 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