{"id":22848,"date":"2025-08-13T18:51:57","date_gmt":"2025-08-13T18:51:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/?p=22848"},"modified":"2026-02-21T00:22:06","modified_gmt":"2026-02-21T00:22:06","slug":"m-w-s","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/2025\/08\/13\/m-w-s\/","title":{"rendered":"Memory worth sharing"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"22848\" class=\"elementor elementor-22848\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8f3c76f e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"8f3c76f\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4c27c11 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"4c27c11\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"640\" height=\"235\" src=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/Screenshot-2025-08-13-at-12.37.02-PM.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-22856\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/Screenshot-2025-08-13-at-12.37.02-PM.webp 682w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/Screenshot-2025-08-13-at-12.37.02-PM-300x110.webp 300w, https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/Screenshot-2025-08-13-at-12.37.02-PM-550x202.webp 550w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-56426f4 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"56426f4\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-afc170f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"afc170f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"xdj266r x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs\"><div dir=\"auto\">This post surfaced this memory of mine &#8212; There\u2019s a certain irony in how grandparents often have a longer runway to \u201cget it\u201d\u2014to understand and embody relational safety, connection, and validation. Broadly speaking, they\u2019re less entangled in the immediate systemic and performative pressures that nuclear parents face. This isn\u2019t universally true, but it\u2019s a pattern worth noticing.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s\"><div dir=\"auto\">When we were preparing for foster care\u2014another deep and complex journey\u2014a moment in training stood out. A grandparent who also worked as a social worker shared a story that revealed his own awakening. After hearing a story in class, his adult son turned to him and said, \u201cDad, where was this version of you when I needed a parent?\u201d The father responded with raw honesty: \u201cSon, I was still just an a-hole who hadn\u2019t yet learned that connection, safety, validation, and relationship come before everything else.\u201d<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s\"><div dir=\"auto\">His son replied, \u201cWell, thanks for calling me an a-hole too,\u201d with a laugh\u2014but the moment was deeply revealing. It wasn\u2019t just about humor. It was about the painful recognition of missed opportunities, and the courage to name what had been absent.<\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This post surfaced this memory of mine &#8212; There\u2019s a certain irony in how grandparents often have a longer runway to \u201cget it\u201d\u2014to understand and embody relational safety, connection, and validation. 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