{"id":22894,"date":"2025-08-15T21:14:17","date_gmt":"2025-08-15T21:14:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/?p=22894"},"modified":"2026-04-12T20:44:58","modified_gmt":"2026-04-12T20:44:58","slug":"calirh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/2025\/08\/15\/calirh\/","title":{"rendered":"Chasing a linkedIN rabbithole"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Follow the white Rabbit - Neo<\/h3><\/span><\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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A recent experience brought this powerful idea back into focus:<\/span><\/p>

\u201cUnrealistic expectations are just future resentments.\u201d<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>

When I apply this lens\u2014and pair it with purposeful and well-calibrated expectations\u2014I consistently see teams and colleagues achieve more, collaborate better, and build trust faster. It\u2019s not just theory; it\u2019s lived experience.<\/span><\/p>

This mindset is one of the most effective \u201crecipes\u201d for sustainable success in my day to day work.<\/span><\/p>

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An old friend made my mind go here:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>

More and more, I\u2019m finding that the deeper I lean into honest, grounded self-reflection, the more naturally I lead with empathy, act with courage, and focus on building momentum\u2014not just managing tasks.<\/span><\/p>

My lived experience continues to teach me that real leadership starts from within. When I do the internal work first (often while swimming, biking and running), I\u2019m better equipped to help others believe in themselves and achieve more. This shift in mindset has allowed me to cultivate a leadership style rooted in presence and purpose.<\/span><\/p>

Rumi said it well:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

\u201cRaise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>

That quote continues to guide how I show up for others\u2014with intention, clarity, and care.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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It does require effort, patience, and a deep understanding of one\u2019s own relationship with virtues like\u00a0courage, temperance, wisdom, and justice. These aren\u2019t just abstract stoic ideals\u2014they\u2019re daily practices that shape how I lead and live.<\/span>

Recently, I came across Thi Nguyen\u2019s insight about how people often outsource their value systems. It\u2019s something I see show up in real ways\u2014especially in moments like the one captured in this image\u2014where the pull for external validation can overshadow the clarity that comes from within.<\/span>

It is my observation, when we lead from a place of internal alignment, we create space for others to do the same. And that\u2019s where real transformation begins.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Thi Nguyen Perspectives<\/h3><\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Thi Nguyen<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0also offers a compelling perspective worth including in one\u2019s journeys, arguing that social structures and technologies profoundly shape how we think and what we value. In his work on\u00a0value capture<\/strong>\u00a0and\u00a0gamification<\/strong>, he warns that when we rely on simplified metrics\u2014such as likes, scores, or follower counts\u2014we risk surrendering our values to external systems that can distort our sense of agency.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Follow the white Rabbit – Neo A recent experience brought this powerful idea back into focus: \u201cUnrealistic expectations are just future resentments.\u201d When I apply this lens\u2014and pair it with purposeful and well-calibrated expectations\u2014I consistently see teams and colleagues achieve […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":22897,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"nf_dc_page":"","_eb_attr":"","pagelayer_contact_templates":[],"_pagelayer_content":"","rs_blank_template":"","rs_page_bg_color":"","slide_template_v7":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-name":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-description":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[439,814,674,817],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22894","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-motivation","category-ads","category-2025-check-ins","category-prnci"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22894","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22894"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22894\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24156,"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22894\/revisions\/24156"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22897"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22894"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22894"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happyinthehills.com\/zentriathlete\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22894"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}