About PDA
When humans resist anything that feels like a demand.
P
Pathological;
D
Demand
A
Avoidance
An Autism
Profile
But your kiddo seems so perfect to me!
Core Features
PDA
What is this voodoo you speak of? Why do you keep talking about it?
What is pathological demand avoidance, or PDA?
Pathological demand avoidance or extreme demand avoidance is a proposed disorder, and proposed sub-type of autism spectrum disorder, defined by characteristics such as a demand avoidance—which is a greater-than-typical refusal to comply with requests or expectations—and extreme efforts to avoid social demands.
Using Information from the PDA Society – www.sunshine-support.org
Why do Humans with PDA resist doing things on demand?
Can’t not won’t. IT may appear to be willful disobedience but the biological and neurological disruptions of adrenaline responses like fight or flight result in anxiety and/or inflexibility.
A question changed to a declarative structured statement often yields different and more favorable responses.
Why is it important to Approach Folks Differently if they have PDA?
While PDA is not a recognized disorder, this doesn’t disavow the biological disruptions manifesting in the fight or flight adrenaline responses.
- understanding behaviours.
- adjusting your mindset.
- optimising the environment.
- reducing the perception of demands.
- being cautious with rewards/praise/sanctions.
- supporting sensory needs.
- supporting social interaction & communication.
- approaching distressed behaviour.
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autism-infographics/autism-pda-explained
What is this about
ADRENALINE Responses
Fight
Defensive Frustration
The fight response is characterized by a surge in adrenaline and a readiness to confront a perceived threat. This response manifests as aggression, anger, or a strong urge to resist and defend oneself. In a traumatic situation, a person exhibiting the fight response may become confrontational, argumentative, or even physically aggressive. This reaction is the body’s way of feeling empowered in a situation that feels out of control.
Flight
Worried Redirection
Flight, on the other hand, is marked by the desire to escape or avoid a threatening situation. People experiencing the flight response might display behaviors such as running away, avoiding confrontation, or seeking physical or emotional distance. This reaction aims to remove oneself from danger or perceived harm to find safety and security.
Freeze
Overwhelmed Disengagement
The freeze response involves feeling immobilized or “stuck” in a traumatic situation. This reaction might involve a sense of numbness, dissociation, or feeling paralyzed. It’s the body’s way of playing dead, hoping that the threat will pass if one remains motionless. It’s a common response when the perceived danger is too overwhelming to confront or escape from.
Fawn
Performative Engagement
The lesser-known response, fawn, appears to be the most dominant when uncomfortable conversations or conflicts are had. This response often emerges from a deep-seated need for social connection and safety, even if it means sacrificing personal boundaries.
Flop/faint
Paralysis, fainting, loss of physical control
The flop response, also known as the “appease” or “submit” response, involves a state of surrender or total collapse in a traumatic situation. This reaction is seen in individuals who feel completely overwhelmed and unable to fight, flee, or even freeze. It often involves feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and a sense of resignation in the face of an insurmountable threat.
Funster
Playing the clown and seeking dopamine satisfaction
Th funster response is not well-documented, but it’s something to be very aware of having reacted with personally. I noticed in my Neurospicy kiddos; and many fellow Neurodivergent profiles, and parents Neurodivergent kiddos have strongly noticed too. This may be more of a strategy as opposed to a response – more research, data and observable evidence needed.
Fib
Concealing guilt
Fibbing is more emergent and is proposed as an alternative protective adrenaline response to the better-known trio of Fight, Flight and Freeze:
With complex and advanced language (not available to our primitive ancestors), we have the ability to verbalize both factual and/or fictitious reasoning instantaneously at point of performance, most notably in times of stress and threat.
Why I created this page
Pathological Demand Avoidance is an emergent comorbid profile most notably with Autism and emergent data and evidence with PTSD. As a caregiver parent of two child PDA-er’s – I am often asked what it is. I am often criticized for my approach at caring for my kiddos. I am often frustrated to hear other mothers having to face scenarios where their partner ( and sometime DNA-donor) doesn’t have ‘time’ to understand this thing called PDA.
I wanted to have a quick set of resources that I could share without adding stress to others or myself. I have observed many things as a caregiver and have access to many personal sets of evidence and information and plenty of experience. I have failed a lot, and also witnessed many of my aspirations turn to successes. This site is not to provide instruction, rather a platform or a leaping pad to help others inform themselves or seek for instructions and recommendations. We sought help through At Peace Parent’s. It helped shape our journey from failure and no options, to learning strategies that helped us land where we are today. We are still a circus of chaos, but at least we have strategies and successes amid our failures, too.
Pda REsources That have proved helpful to our family
North America
North America
About PDA (Books and Resources)
Australia/UK
Canada
Genral Autism REsources that have been trustable
USA
USA
USA
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USA